Dealing With Negativity
Dealing With Negativity
Yesterday I wrote an article for Broke and Chic (that you all should read!) and somebody left a negative comment about my profile picture. I got some responses from fans and friends saying that they felt so bad and that person was such a jerk. I really appreciated everyone looking out for me and I felt very fortunate that those around me got my back! However, I didn’t let it bother me, and as I’ve grown in this vast universe I’ve learned to deal with negativity and it’s really helped me maintain a level head in tough times. Here are my top tips.
1. Don’t respond with more negativity- this is easier said than done, but all it does is add more fuel to the fire and you also sink to their level. I’ve found it helps to smile, ask if you’ve offended them, or even agree with them with a joke! Sometimes a negative person is so insecure that they themselves are looking for love. Perhaps they are jealous of your happiness or confidence and they use their negativity to bring you down to their level. So try to bring them up!
2. Take a step back and gain perspective- I try to avoid negative people at all costs, but sometimes this is not an option. It may be a boss, co-worker, family member, etc. and you need some way to lighten things up. I have always found that taking a deep breath, removing myself “mentally” from the situation and gaining their perspective always helps. Do they have a rough life at home? Are they tired and cranky? What is fueling their fire? This gives me the upper hand and I can leverage a way to connect.
3. Try to connect with the negative person– and make them laugh. It’s true, misery loves company, so a useful tactic is sometimes agree with them in a light hearted manner, and bring them up with laughter. They will perceive you as a peer but subconsciously associate you with an uplifting feeling. I remember going to the movies and the person ripping up the tickets was very unfriendly. So as he was ripping mine up, I made a joking comment about the book he was reading and he looked up and laughed. Sometimes all people need is a little sympathy and a lot of laughter. Try it.
4. View the negative as a positive- I learned this one from my good friend Jonathan, a master of spinning things on their positive side. This is also easier said than done, however when you take the time to learn or find the light in a dark situation, most of the time unknown answers will present themselves. Life is about perspective Jon says, and it’s your perspective that will contribute to your happiness.
5. Surround yourself with positive people/energy- this is the ultimate! When you embrace a positive environment of supportive, uplifting, and like minded people, you will want to be happy. You will want to be positive. The energy will fuel your own passion and life will seem all the greater. The opposite is true as well, when you are constantly around negativity, it will bring you down, no doubt about it. The people who can constantly maintain a positive outlook are fascinating to me and I try to learn from them. I’m not there yet, but I’m learning!
And if you need something to cheer you up, watch this!